Your Attitude Makes All the Difference in Life
Dealing with Disappointment
If you pour your time and creativity into something that goes nowhere, it's unrealistic to think you'll be able to shrug your shoulders and just forget about it if things go wrong. In fact, doing so seems like divorcing yourself from your true feelings. Pretending you are not disappointed doesn't get you anywhere. Letting it out is the only way you'll be able to truly move on but limit that time of disappointment, move on and forget about it.
Many of us would love to be able to control every aspect of our lives. But that's just not the way the world works. So much of life is beyond our control. What's always within our control, however, is how we react to any given situation. Acknowledge the things that you can't control. We can give our best effort and control our response and maybe, with any luck, you'll come to think in time that what was out of your control actually worked out for the best in the long run.
Consider the words of Martin Luther King, Jr: "There can be no deep disappointment where there is not deep love.” We could spare ourselves a world of hurt if we never felt deeply about anything. But how meaningful would it be to go through life without passions? Consider the effect of disappointment as a reminder of its cause --- your great capacity to care.
There are disappointments that are crushing and require a good cry, and then there are the disappointments that simply get in the way of our best expectations. Remember to acknowledge what's beyond your control and then make the best of the situation. For the everyday disappointments, just get in the game as best you can with the hand you were dealt.
When you are falling apart over a bitter disappointment, the idea of what doesn't kill you making you stronger may be the reminder you need that you will make it through this. And when you do, you'll be equipped with even greater reserves to handle whatever life hands you next. The human spirit is amazingly resilient; yours is, too.
Will this matter in a week? A year? Five years? Our lives are focused on ourselves. This tendency makes it hard to put disappointment in perspective but try to remember that what seems like the end of the world today may seem like almost nothing in a few days or weeks.
Surround yourself with beauty as this is actually a simple but powerful way to help you connect with the larger meanings in life. After you've vented and mourned and put things in perspective, indulge your senses in beauty. Work in your garden, take a walk around the neighborhood or a local park, spend an afternoon at a museum studying great works of art, lose yourself in a good book. Sit on a park bench and watch the way the light comes through the trees. Remember that this, too, shall pass, and in the meantime, the beauty of what it means to be alive can help get you through.
If you pour your time and creativity into something that goes nowhere, it's unrealistic to think you'll be able to shrug your shoulders and just forget about it if things go wrong. In fact, doing so seems like divorcing yourself from your true feelings. Pretending you are not disappointed doesn't get you anywhere. Letting it out is the only way you'll be able to truly move on but limit that time of disappointment, move on and forget about it.
Many of us would love to be able to control every aspect of our lives. But that's just not the way the world works. So much of life is beyond our control. What's always within our control, however, is how we react to any given situation. Acknowledge the things that you can't control. We can give our best effort and control our response and maybe, with any luck, you'll come to think in time that what was out of your control actually worked out for the best in the long run.
Consider the words of Martin Luther King, Jr: "There can be no deep disappointment where there is not deep love.” We could spare ourselves a world of hurt if we never felt deeply about anything. But how meaningful would it be to go through life without passions? Consider the effect of disappointment as a reminder of its cause --- your great capacity to care.
There are disappointments that are crushing and require a good cry, and then there are the disappointments that simply get in the way of our best expectations. Remember to acknowledge what's beyond your control and then make the best of the situation. For the everyday disappointments, just get in the game as best you can with the hand you were dealt.
When you are falling apart over a bitter disappointment, the idea of what doesn't kill you making you stronger may be the reminder you need that you will make it through this. And when you do, you'll be equipped with even greater reserves to handle whatever life hands you next. The human spirit is amazingly resilient; yours is, too.
Will this matter in a week? A year? Five years? Our lives are focused on ourselves. This tendency makes it hard to put disappointment in perspective but try to remember that what seems like the end of the world today may seem like almost nothing in a few days or weeks.
Surround yourself with beauty as this is actually a simple but powerful way to help you connect with the larger meanings in life. After you've vented and mourned and put things in perspective, indulge your senses in beauty. Work in your garden, take a walk around the neighborhood or a local park, spend an afternoon at a museum studying great works of art, lose yourself in a good book. Sit on a park bench and watch the way the light comes through the trees. Remember that this, too, shall pass, and in the meantime, the beauty of what it means to be alive can help get you through.
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